A Guide to BDSM

If you're new to sex or you've been in a relationship for a while, BDSM is a great way to spice up your love life. In this guide, you'll learn everything from what BDSM is to what you should do if you're interested in playing this fun game with your partner.

What is BDSM Exactly?

BDSM is a method of sex play that focuses on the dynamics of the submissive role. It's an ethical way to have a sexual encounter that is both pleasurable and safe.

BDSM can include a wide range of activities. These can be physical or psychological. Ideally, BDSM is done slowly and carefully. Please make sure to talk with your partner beforehand and check in after to make sure you are both happy and secure.

Getting Started

Many people are afraid of trying BDSM because they feel like it's abnormally kinky. This is actually not the case. BDSM is a form of sex that requires consent and clear communication, as well as mutual respect between both parties.

BDSM is an exciting experience and a fun way to explore a deeper connection. However, there are a few tips to keep in mind when you're planning a session.

First, you need to talk with your partner about what you're planning. Discuss the length of the sex, what you want to get out of the session, and the types of activities you’re comfortable experiencing. Then, write down these discussions in a contract. This way, you can re-visit it after the session is over.

You should also be mindful of the risks in the scenarios. For example, if your partner is intoxicated, you may not be able to make good decisions. And if you're talking particularly dirty or aggressive during sex, you could hurt them.

Another thing to keep in mind is the golden rules of BDSM. Specifically, you should stay aware of your own physical reactions and readjust your restraints if they're too tight. Also, you should check with your partner before and after the sex.

As long as you and your partner follow these guidelines, you should both enjoy the experience and a stronger bond.

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